Showing posts from June, 2009

On Marriage: Let's call the whole thing off

This is not actually my title - it is the title of an article found on MSN today. The author has determined to end her 20 year marriage. She had an affair and decided she didn't want to put the effort into falling back in love with her husband. The article, though, is more about whether or not marriage is still relevant. Apparently, marriage made sense 100 years ago when much of the world was agricultural and a large family was neccessary for the success of the family business. Today though we have Merry Maids, landscaping businesses, white-collar jobs, and fast food restaurants. Single parenthood isn't so unusual - in fact it's probably become the rule instead of the exception. And procreating isn't really a necessity either.

Some people shouldn't have children. I'm probably one of the them. Ask my mother. My sisters were the ones who wanted large families. My oldest sister was going to have 20 children - adoption was part of the plan. She has two - a girl who …

Week Ending 6/21/09

First, Happy Father's Day to all those who have contributed so fully to the generations who followed. My own father was a great example to me growing up of how to be strict, yet forgiving; firm, yet kind; demanding, yet giving. No wonder I'm so wishy-washy.

I was going to write last week but was just exhausted from day camp. I'm still exhausted but we skipped church (missed both alarms and had no kids to rally us from our beds) so I'm now somewhat more conscious.

The past two weeks have been focused primarily on Cub Scout Day Camp. We love the program but it does get hard on us and the children. Cierra in particular is much more prone to fits and tantrums than normal. She's also got that independent streak that causes her to know exactly how to get under my skin at the most inopportune moments. Neil has been working at the BB Gun Range while I split my time between the pool and watching the Mowglis (staff children).

We continue to search for jobs with no luck. I'v…

Week Ending June 7, 2009

We're into day camp - full swing. So right now my life is getting up, getting things packed up, leave for day camp, spend 9 hours at the Heard either at the pool or with the Mowglis (staff day care), come home, put the kids to bed, crash out.

Nothing real exciting this past week other than we filled out all the paperwork for the house short sale and sent it to the bank and Derek turned 14 on Thursday. That was roundtable night so Neil stayed home with the kids while I went to day camp by myself. He had a counseling appointment with Alyx which seemed to go fairly well. Derek leaves for camp tomorrow, Aaron got home yesterday.

Church today was okay I guess. I got berated by the mother of the other teacher for not bringing the bread again but when I told her that we were having a busy month, she told me she didn't want to be involved, that it should be between her son and and Aaron. So either she wants to be involved or she doesn't. Not really sure. And at the moment I really d…

We got an offer on the house

It's not a great offer, but then again, we're not going to see any of the money anyway. I don't know if the bank will accept the offer or not, but again, not really a big concern. What is good about the offer is that it will most likely defer the foreclosure while the bank decides what they want to do with the house. As I best understand it, they would rather accept an offer than go through the expense of a foreclosure. So we could be here until mid-July or we could be here through October. There is some fear in the unknown. Without a job, how are we going to find another place to live? Who will rent to us without any income? And yet, I know it will be okay. I don't know how, but it's not the first time in my life the Lord hasn't made me privy to the details. I could probably ask, but I think there is a part of me that doesn't really want to know. And of course there is the concern that I will get the answer I've received in the past - it's not pert…